How do you thank your husband?
No, this isn’t about serving your husband, or being submissive to him, or any 1950’s style relationship, this is about gratitude. One of the most fundamental, but so often missed, parts of a happy marriage.
This isn’t a battle between who should be thanking whom. We should all be showing more gratitude and kindness.
And trust me, I’ve heard it all before – from ‘but he doesn’t thank me so why should I thank him’ through to ‘he knows I’m grateful, I don’t have to say it’. Believe me – everyone needs to feel appreciated, and everyone needs to hear it.
Why Is Gratitude Important In A Relationship?
In a marriage, gratitude can be expressed in many ways—from saying “thank you” for dinner to truly appreciating your partner’s strengths.
But why is gratitude important in a marriage?
Gratitude helps maintain perspective, keeps resentments at bay, and fosters a positive outlook.
When you express gratitude to your husband, you’re acknowledging the good in your relationship and affirming your commitment to each other.
Saying “thank you” is just one way to show your husband how much you appreciate him—other thoughtful gestures include cooking his favorite meal, taking care of the kids so he can relax, or simply telling him how lucky you feel to be married to him.
Whatever form it takes, expressing gratitude is one of the simplest—and most effective—ways to keep your marriage strong.
And while I know many people get frustrated over the idea of having to thank their spouse, I do firmly believe (and the studies back me up) that you should thank your husband regularly AND he should thank you.
But, because you can’t control what he does, holding resentment or holding out on showing gratitude because your spouse doesn’t show you gratitude is not a healthy way to move forward in a relationship.
Why not be the one to start?
Shower him with gratitude and show him how good it feels to be appreciated – this leads to a much greater chance of the gratitude being reciprocated.
I also believe that we should thank each other for the everyday things, the things that are often overlooked and fall by the wayside.
Thank your husband for making you smile and thank him for the little things he does each day.
When you do this two things happen:
1 – When you’re looking for things to thank your husband for you start to notice the little things he does.
2 – When you start voicing your gratitude you’ll find the gratitude is often reciprocated.
31 Heartfelt Ways To Thank Your Husband (Or Spouse)
With all of that in mind, here are some heartfelt ways you can thank your husband each day.
1 – Send Him a Thoughtful Text
When was the last time you sent your husband a text that had more substance to it than ‘honey, pick up milk on the way home’ or ‘I’m going to be home late from work, your turn to cook’?
Remember when you first started dating and you’d text each other all day? Tap into that again.
Send a message saying ‘honey, I’m thinking of you’ or simply ‘I am grateful for you’.
You could even be specific and say ‘thank you for taking out the trash this morning, I really appreciate it’.
2 – Write Him A Note
Love notes are such a thoughtful gesture and we tend to forget the impact of a handwritten note.
Write down your gratitude on a post it note and put it somewhere as a surprise.
In his car, on the fridge door, on the mirror, in his wallet. Just little reminders that you love him and that you’re grateful for him.
3 – Turn Dinner Into A Date Night
Rather than simply going through the motions of dinner like you do every night, turn it into a date night.
Put the kids to bed (at least 10 times because we know they will keep getting up) and then do everything like you would on a date.
Get dressed up, light some candles, use the fancy plates and drink from the fancy wine glasses (even if it’s just sparkling apple juice – it still feels fancy).
Don’t turn the TV on during dinner, sit and have a conversation with your husband (grab these printable conversation starters as a bonus).
You could then snuggle up and watch a movie together afterward, or keep the conversation going!
4 – Write ‘Thank You’ On Your Mirror In Lipstick
This is less about the mirror and lipstick and more about the surprise factor.
Getting creative with how you thank your husband and stepping outside of the norm can be so much fun.
Other ways you can do this include :
- write ‘I love you’ in the frost on the car windshield
- write with your finger on the shower glass so when it steams up, he notices it
- grab a dry-erase marker and write a thank you note on the window
5 – Tell Him You’re Grateful
We often say ‘thank you’ as a reaction or response and we don’t really think about what we are saying or what it means.
‘Thank you’ has become such a mindless response it’s kind of lost its meaning.
To overcome this, change up the words you use.
Rather than saying thank you when your husband does something (even if it’s putting your empty dinner plate in the dishwasher), say ‘I am grateful for you’.
You can even say it without it being a response to something else, anytime you think of it, speak your gratitude out loud.
6 – Sit and Have a Conversation
It’s so easy to fall into the trap of just passing by each other and succumbing to day-to-day life.
We talk about the things that are happening each day but when was the last time you actually sat and listened to each other.
One of the best ways to show your gratitude is to listen.
Remember when you’d hang off every word each other said? Try that again.
Have a conversation that doesn’t revolve around the kids, work, or the never-ending to-do list.
Need some inspiration? Check out these 76 Questions To Ask Your Husband Other Than ‘How Was Your Day?’
7 – Find Out Each Other’s Love Language and Use It
If you’re not aware of the 5 Love Languages, the short version is that we each have a certain way we give and receive love, it’s our Love Language.
The 5 Love Languages are:
1 – Words of Affirmation
These are words that build someone up. They can be said out loud or in a written note, text, or email.
Examples: “I’m so proud of you!” “You’re doing a great job!” “I love you just the way you are.”
2 – Quality Time
This love language is all about giving someone undivided attention.
It’s about being fully present and engaged when you’re with them, whether you’re doing an activity together or just sitting and talking.
Examples: Putting away your phone when you’re talking to your partner, really listening when they’re speaking to you, and making plans in advance for quality time together.
3 – Receiving Gifts
This love language is pretty self-explanatory—it’s all about receiving thoughtful gifts from your partner that show they care about you.
It’s not about the cost of the gift, but more about the thought and effort that went into choosing it.
Examples: A bouquet of flowers for no reason, a box of your favorite candy, a card expressing your love for them.
4 – Acts of Service
This love language is all about showing your partner that you care by doing things for them that show you’re thinking of them.
It can be something as simple as taking out the trash or doing the grocery shopping, or it can be something more time-consuming like taking care of the kids for an evening and booking them in for a massage.
Examples: Making dinner when they’ve had a long day at work, fuelling their car up for them, doing a chore for them that they would normally do, or making their coffee for them in the morning.
This love language is all about showing affection through physical touch.
It can be anything from holding hands to cuddling to physical intimacy, or simply just putting a hand on their shoulder in a loving and supportive way.
Examples: Hugs, kisses, massages, hand-holding, lying in bed together, touching legs as you sit together.
Knowing each other’s love language means you know what is important to your partner, but it also means you are more aware of what things you can do to show each other love.
If you haven’t already, find out each other’s love language and then use that love language to do something that resonates with your husband to thank him.
8 – Make A List Of Reasons Why You Love Them And Frame It
This is a really simple but incredibly thoughtful way to show your husband how much you love and appreciate him.
All you need to do is make a list of all the reasons why you love him—it can be as long or as short as you want it to be!
Once you have your list, find a frame that you know he’ll love and pop it in there. You could even get a little creative and decorate the frame with some of your favorite memories together.
9 – Write A Love Letter
A love letter is such a personal and heartfelt way to thank your husband for everything he does for you.
It doesn’t have to be pages and pages long, just a few heartfelt sentences expressing how much you love and appreciate him will do the trick.
You could even write it in the form of a list, similar to the one above. Whatever style you choose, he’s sure to appreciate this gesture.
10 – Get Creative With A DIY Gift
If your husband is the creative type, then he’s sure to appreciate a DIY gift that you’ve put your time and effort into.
It could be something as simple as a photo album filled with some of your favorite memories together, or maybe even a homemade coupon book with things like ‘Good for one back massage’ or ‘Free pass to choose the next movie we watch’.
Whatever you decide to make, he’s sure to appreciate the time and effort you’ve put into it.
11 – Plan A Day Doing All Of The Things He Loves
Sometimes the best way to show your husband how much you appreciate him is to do something that he really loves.
So why not spend a day doing all of the things he loves?
Whether it’s his favorite hobby, sport or activity, make an effort to join in and have some fun. He’s sure to appreciate the effort you’ve made to make his day special.
Messages You Can Send To Your Husband To Show Your Gratitude
Even if you don’t have a lot of time to spare, there are plenty of ways to show your husband how much you appreciate him with just a few simple words.
Here are some heartfelt messages you can send to your husband to show your gratitude:
12 – Thank you for being the most amazing husband I could ever ask for. I love you so much!
13 – Thank you for always being there for me, no matter what. I really appreciate it.
14 – Thank you for working so hard to provide for our family. I know it’s not always easy, but I appreciate everything you do.
15 – Thank you for being such a great father to our children. They are so lucky to have you in their lives.
16 – Thank you for being patient with me, even when I’m being difficult. I know it can’t be easy, but I really appreciate it.
17 – Thank you for always supporting me, even when I make mistakes. I know I couldn’t do it without you.
18 – Thank you for always believing in me, even when I don’t believe in myself. It means the world to me.
19 – Thank you for being my rock during tough times. I know I can always lean on you for support.
20 – Thank you for being understanding when I need some time to myself. I really appreciate it.
21 – Thank you for being the best husband I could ever ask for. I love you from the bottom of my heart!
Notes & Quotes That You Can Send To Your Husband To Show Your Appreciation
Sometimes all it takes is a few words to show your husband how much you appreciate him.
Here are some notes and quotes you can send to your husband to show your appreciation:
22 – “I couldn’t have asked for a better husband. Thank you for everything.”
23 – “You’re my world and I love you from the bottom of my heart. Thank you for being mine.”
24 – “Thank you for being the best husband I could have ever asked for. I love you more than anything in this world.”
25 – “I appreciate everything you do for me, even though I don’t always say it. Thank you for being the amazing man that you are.”
26 – “Thank you for being understanding and supportive, even when I’m not at my best. I really appreciate it.”
27 – “I know I don’t say it enough, but I really do appreciate everything you do for me. Thank you so much!”
28 – “Thank you for being the most amazing husband I could have ever asked for. I love you from the bottom of my heart!”
29 – “I don’t know what I would do without you. Thank you for always being there for me. I really appreciate it.”
30 – “Thank you for being understanding and supportive. I know I couldn’t do it without you.”
31 – “I appreciate everything you do for me. Thank you for being the best husband I could have ever asked for!”
Remember, be creative in the ways you thank your husband, you never know… you could turn it into a challenge and see who can come up with the most creative way.
We hope this list has given you some inspiration on how to show your husband how much you appreciate him.
Whether you choose to do something special for him or simply send him a heartfelt message, he’s sure to appreciate the thought and effort you’ve put into it.