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There’s this amazing phase of a relationship when you first start dating. You’re getting to know each other, everything is new and exciting and fun! Weekends are spent jam-packed full of adventure and even the nights you spend snuggling on the lounge watching Netflix is something to look forward to.
But somewhere along the way, we forget that we are supposed to be having fun and we get into a rut. It doesn’t have to be like that, you don’t have to be that ‘boring’ couple. Here are some ways you can have more fun in your relationship.
1 – Find Out What Makes Each Other Happy
What is it that truly makes your partner happy? Like over the moon, dance around the house kind of happy. Doing things that makes each other happy is not only a great way to spend time together (and come up with amazing dates) but also shows that you care about the other person, how they feel and that you want to do things that make them smile.
Find out what makes each other happy, then do more of that.
2 – Get Outside Of Your Comfort Zone
Ever gone skydiving, walked on hot coals, went sightseeing at the top of a tall building or gone paddle boarding at the beach? If you keep doing what you’ve always done and what you’re comfortable with, you’re not going to grow and you’re going to end up in the rut zone for a long time.
Push the boundaries, take risks and plan some awesome fun activities together.
3 – Have a ‘To Do’ List
You know when you have a great idea for something to do, and then when it comes to the weekend you end up forgetting the great idea and start drawing blanks on what to do? Yeah, I do that all the time.
Which is why we started a ‘to do’ list.
Anytime we get an idea for something fun and exciting to do, we put it on the list. Then when it gets to the weekend, we aren’t stuck wondering what on earth we should or could be doing.
Want to have more fun in your relationship? Grab a copy of our free Mini Relationship Planner, including the 100 questions to ask as conversation starters.
4 – Be Open and Honest With Each Other
There’s a kind of freedom that comes with being completely open and honest with your partner, it’s both comforting and exciting all at once. You can use this openness and honesty to add some more fun in your relationship in a few different ways.
You could share your goals with each other, your wildest dreams and desires, and create plans together on how you’re going to achieve them. One of the things I love doing is creating ‘vision boards’ of what our dream life will look like. Even if your partner is a little closed off, this is a great way to get them to open up a little.
Or you could ask each other a whole bunch of questions over a glass of wine while listening to music and just relaxing together. Check out these 55 questions you could ask each other (you can even grab a pdf copy to print and keep on hand too!).
5 – Know Each Other’s Love Language
There’s a theory that everyone has a ‘love language’, that is a particular way they like to show and be shown love. Understanding each other’s love language can be a massive step in getting to know each other more and it can even help avoid arguments and frustrations as you being to understand how each other is showing their love.
If you haven’t already, take the online quiz to find out what your love language is. Be sure to answer all the questions truthfully, not how you think your partner wants you to answer them. Once you’re done, read through the profiles that align with each of you and you’ll be amazed at how many ‘ah-ha’ moments there are.
Knowing these love languages will help you so much when it comes to trying to add more fun in your relationship – you’ll find you’re less frustrated with each other and more understanding. You might even find that when your husband washes your car, even though you just want to go out to lunch with him, that he is actually showing you he loves you because he values acts of service while you value quality time.
Switch up and do things for each other that align with your love languages and the fun will start to come back.
6 – Date Each Other Again
When was the last time you went on a date together? Not out to the dinner with the kids, or lunch with the family, but an actual date? Dinner, movies, walk on the beach kind of date?
What did you do when you were first dating? Recreate one of your favourite dates together, or add a different spin on it and start dating each other again.
But it doesn’t stop at going on dates. How often would you text each other or call each other during the day when you were dating? Do that again! Send some cute little love messages to each other (that don’t consist of ‘hey can you pick up milk on the way home?’) and talk to each other.
7 – Travel Together
There are so many adventures to be had, you just have to jump in and find them! Maybe you won’t be able to backpack across Europe but you can certainly still travel together.
Check out what’s happening around your local area and see what there is for you to explore. So often we forget that there are amazing places so close by and feel like we have to travel further to have an adventure.
It can also be fun to plan a vacation together so schedule one in. Maybe you only get to go away once or twice a year but you can plan it together and make it the most amazing getaway ever!
8 – Make Decisions For Each Other For A Whole Day
This is so much fun! We make literally thousands of tiny little decisions each and every day, from what we wear to what we eat, from where we sit to when we go to sleep at night. Making decisions can be exhausting. But, getting your partner to make decisions for you can be fun.
Take turns, perhaps one weekend your partner gets to make decisions for you and then the next weekend it’s the opposite. Set the parameters and the rules, and have fun with it!!
9 – Come Up With The ‘Perfect Date’ For Each Other
Have you ever thought about what your perfect date would be? Like the ultimate perfect night where everything is just amazing. Do you know what the perfect date for your partner would be? This can be so much fun and also show how thoughtful you can be to each other.
Pick a night each where you can create the perfect date for the other person. You can set rules or set a budget if you want, whatever works for you. Each of you can spend some time coming up with the perfect date and then you get to actually go out on that date. You might be surprised at what each other comes up with!
It’s easy to fall into the rut of takeaways and Netflix movies, and while that can be fun sometimes, it can also be repetitive and make you lose your spark.
Get creative and adventurous and start to have more fun in your relationship again!