We see people treating happiness as a destination, when really it’s made up of all the moments in our days and the choices we make. Happy women haven’t ‘arrived’ at happiness, they’ve made a conscious choice to make happiness part of their lives.
In doing so, there are some things that happy women don’t do, things they won’t tolerate and things they just don’t have time for. This clears the negative space in their lives and leaves more room for what it is that makes them happy.
If you’re doing any of these things, they could be holding you back from your own happiness.
These are just some of the things happy women don’t do:
1 – Compare Themselves To Others
You’ve heard that comparison is the thief of joy, and women can too easily become obsessed with comparing themselves to others. It’s not hard to see why. A quick scroll through Instagram or flip through a magazine is enough to set anyone’s insecurities off.
A happy woman doesn’t care for comparing herself to others, and instead only compares to previous versions of herself in order to determine if she is moving in the direction she wants to go in life.
2 – Rely On Someone Else For Their Happiness
Happy women do not rely on others to make them happy and instead take responsibility for their own happiness. They don’t need anyone else to feel like their lives are fulfilled, and they don’t expect anyone to come and ‘save’ them.
They know what it is that makes them happy and they take responsibility for making it part of their life.
3 – Worry About What Others Think
There’s a saying ‘what other’s think of you is none of your business’ and it is so true. Happy women don’t give a rats razoo what other’s think about them. They know that not everyone is going to like them and they are okay with that (because really, they don’t like everyone either).
Worrying about what others think wastes time and energy and detracts from your own happiness. Focus on what you can control and what is important to you, and let others think whatever they want.
4 – Spend Time Doing Things They Don’t Like
Why waste time doing something that doesn’t set your soul on fire. Sure, there are some things you have to do, but for the majority of the time, a happy woman focuses on doing the things that make her happy, and passes on the things they don’t like.
Even when it comes to work, a happy woman will seek out a career that makes her happy and will be quick to move on from a career that she does not like. She knows she gets to choose.
5 – Put Everyone Else’s Needs Before Their Own
While it’s nice to care for others and it is important to be considerate of others, a happy woman knows how important it is to look after her own needs first, because she cannot pour from an empty cup.
She knows that if she says yes to everyone else, and puts everyone else’s needs before her own, she won’t have energy or time left to look after herself.
Instead she spends time ensuring her needs are being met first, so she can in turn meet the needs of others.
6 – Keep Negative People In Their Life
A happy woman has no time for negative people in her life, regardless of who they are. She knows that by keeping negative people in her life their negativity will require her to give more of her energy and it will take from her some of her happiness.
Instead, she lets them go from her life if she can, or she restricts her time with them if they must be part of her life. She gives only the energy required and knows that while they may be a nice person, negativity can be draining and it can detract from her own happiness.
7 – Obsess Over Their Shortcomings
Everyone has weaknesses, there’s no denying it. But a happy woman knows her shortcomings and accepts them. If she wants to improve them, she does. If she doesn’t care much about them, she moves on, or outsources what she needs, but she absolutely does not obsess over them.
Her shortcomings are part of what makes her unique, and unless they negatively affect her happiness, then she is happy to move on.
While there are a lot of things that women do to improve the happiness in their life, it’s equally important to know what it is that happy women don’t do. Remove these from your life and see how much your happiness increases.