Tell me about your day… I’m going to guess that it’s pretty busy. Jam-packed full of things to do and things that need to be done. From the moment you wake up your mind is racing with the tasks for the day. Preparing breakfast for the kids and getting them ready for school, attempting to wipe some makeup across your face and tame your hair while your toddler makes every effort to destroy everything they touch.
Then you’re out the door, rushing around – you might go to work, you may have to do the groceries and run the errands, then when you get home there’s the housework, the clean up, the preparation for the next day, the never ending attempt to make your home look like humans live there and not wild animals (if you have a toddler you will completely understand).
Next your afternoon routine kicks in and the hustle continues until bed time (and sometimes even that is a battle). After all, this is done, all you want to do is crawl into bed and get some rest ready to rinse and repeat tomorrow.
So where in all of this do you get to spend time with your husband? Are you at the point where you know someone else lives in your house but it’s been so long since you’ve had a conversation with them that you’re not quite sure who they are anymore?
You need to fix this!! And fast.
We know this scenario quite well – Steve works shift work and when I was working, we would often work opposing shifts and most of our conversations would occur via text messages. There’s only so much you can convey in a text message.
We could go 5 or 6 days without having a proper conversation and you know what? It makes us both feel like crap. We become so disjointed from each other that we stop talking even about the little things, and it’s the little things that matter the most.
The time you spend with your husband is important, for both the health of your family and the health of your relationship. We all know communication is key in keeping a relationship afloat but what happens when you literally run out of time?
Where does your relationship fit in your list of priorities? Is it more important that the washing? More important than cleaning the floors? More important than half an hour of sleep?
It should be. Your relationship should be so high on your list of priorities that you have no trouble making time to talk to your significant other.
Now, I don’t proclaim to be an expert when it comes to relationships and believe me, I’ve had my share of poor ones. However, I have learned that making your relationship a priority is important and just spending half an hour a day talking to your husband can make all the difference.
So how do you do it? We know we need to spend time together but in reality, how does it work? Here are 3 ways to spend more time with your husband:
Make Time For Conversations Before Bed
After Steve finishes work (which can be after 9pm or later some nights) we sit together for half an hour having a drink (okay, a wine) and talk about what happened that day. We talk about the little things, a funny new word Alexander said, things we read on the internet or saw in the news. The content of our conversations isn’t what is important, what’s important is that we talk.
We make time every day before we go to bed to talk. On the rare occasion it doesn’t happen, which usually occurs because he is out on jobs or working, we make sure it’s the first thing we do the following day. Talking to each other needs to be a priority.
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Choose To Spend Time Together
On days we both have off, where we aren’t working and don’t have commitments (rare, but they happen) we make sure we spend at least a portion of the day together. We understand that days off usually mean the ability to get things done around the house but we also know that time together is more important. We might go for a walk together (a great chance to talk), go for a long drive somewhere or simply spend time at home together watching the kids run around in the back yard.
It would be easy some days to forget about doing this. Using this time to catch up with friends or get work done, but we choose to make our time together a priority.
Go Away Together
We try to take regular breaks away from home. This can be difficult due to the need to schedule holidays, however, we attempt to take a holiday every 3 months. Time away from the regular home routine can be revitalising. These holidays don’t need to be expensive, you can go camping for a few nights or stay somewhere for just one night, or even a day. The idea is to get away and be somewhere together. Sitting in a car travelling to your destination is a perfect opportunity to talk and catch up on what has been happening.
I promise, just by making the effort to talk to your significant other on a daily basis, you will feel more connected with each other and less frustrated with your day-to-day routines. You will be able to keep up with what’s happening and both be on the same page when it comes to your family and each other.
So I challenge you to give it a go, make your relationship a priority and spend some time talking to each other.