When you think of a strong independent woman do you picture someone standing there in the Wonder Woman pose (or the Captain Marvel pose for those of us who prefer Marvel over DC)?
Do you picture someone you know?
Perhaps someone you work with or someone who has been a big influence on your life.
When you think of a strong independent woman, do you think of yourself?
Sometimes we don’t even realize how strong we are, or give value to our independence and what we can do for ourselves.
Maybe you don’t even notice the habits of a confident woman you already have.
There’s far too much focus on things like ‘I don’t want to adult today’, or ‘I’m too broke’, and don’t even get me started on the whole ‘waiting to marry a rich man’!!
Instead, we should be sharing more about what we can do, what we know how to do, and celebrating our independence.
Here are some signs of an independent woman (which you may already have), and if these don’t relate to you, or if you want to be more independent and don’t know how, then this list is a great place to start.
1 – You Don’t Rely On Anyone Else To Make You Happy
Your happiness is 100% your responsibility.
As soon as I realized this, I stopped looking to external factors to guide my happiness, whether it was people or events or a status I thought I needed to have, and I focused on making myself happy.
If you have people in your life that you feel are making you unhappy, then remove them from your life (if you can) or reduce the impact they have on your life.
If you have a job that makes you unhappy, or you don’t like your boss, then get a new job. If you live in a house you don’t like, then find a new house.
Sometimes it’s not that simple, and we don’t have the ability to just change things we don’t like, but we do have the choice of how we react to them.
Instead of saying how much you hate your job, you could change it to say that you are grateful you have a job, and you’re working towards getting an even better one.
This puts the gratitude in focus for what you have, and the intention and action in place to get a job you like more.
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2 – You Don’t Fear Spending Time Alone
There’s a difference between not liking time on your own, and fearing time on your own.
Many extroverts aren’t particularly fond of time on their own and they draw their energy and recharge their batteries when they are in a crowd.
There is nothing wrong with this and this does not mean you aren’t a strong independent woman.
There is a concern, however, if you fear spending time alone.
Being able to confidently spend time alone means you are comfortable with yourself, you like yourself and you can enjoy your own company.
These are all signs of a strong independent woman who doesn’t need others to make her feel good, instead simply enjoys having others around.
And if you’re a mother who has tiny people clawing off you all the time or feels the demands of others, all the time, then this time alone is like bliss!
3 – You Are In Complete Control Of Your Finances
If you don’t know the total amount of money you have owing in debt, or the amount of money you have in your accounts, or when your bills are due to be paid, then you need to get that sorted quick smart!
As a strong, independent woman you are in control of your money!
You’re not waiting on some ‘rich guy’ to ride in on his convertible and save the day. Oh, no. You don’t need that.
Save yourself and get in control of your money.
Finances are one of the biggest aspects of life that women feel the least control in.
It’s the ‘traditional’ model that women stay at home and raise the babies while the men go out and are the breadwinners.
But it’s modern times and women are smashing glass ceilings and creating careers for themselves that they love. They are taking control of their lives and their money and you need to do so too.
In the words of our girl Beyonce – “The shoes on my feet, I’ve bought it, the clothes I’m wearing, I’ve bought it, the rock I’m rockin’, I’ve bought it, ’cause I depend on me if I want it.”
If you want to achieve your financial goals, if you want to buy a house or go on a holiday or have a ton of savings in the bank, it all starts with being in control of your finances. Right now.
If you’re in a relationship, this doesn’t mean that you hand the financial controls over to someone else.
Even if you are the stay-at-home mom, or if you aren’t responsible for the paycheck (because really, no one could afford to pay women as stay-at-home moms anyway, our wage would be HUGE for what we do), you still have a say in the financial matters that happen in your home and in your life and you need to understand what financial situation you are in.
4 – You Know What Makes You Happy
Remember how we said that you don’t need to rely on anyone else to make you happy?
Well, you also need to know what it is that makes you happy (and what doesn’t).
When was the last time you actually asked yourself ‘is this making me happy?’
Or if I was to ask you right now, what makes you so happy you feel like you have butterflies in your stomach and you want to jump up and down, could you answer me?
Knowing what makes you happy is a level of self-reflection that so many people miss.
Sure, as mothers we love our kids and our families make us happy, or our husbands make us happy, but you are a person outside of your role as a mother, as a wife, as a career woman, as a whatever… you are YOU.
What makes YOU happy?
5 – You Have Goals And Plans To Achieve Them
We all have goals in life. Whether we verbalize them as goals or if we just say ‘one day I’d love to…’ and add our deepest desires into the sentence, we all have them.
But, the difference between women who are strong and independent and those that aren’t, is that the strong, independent women have plans to achieve their goals.
Their ‘one day’ is no longer ‘one day’ but has an actual date to it. If they are working towards buying a house, they have a timeframe for when they want to buy one. Or even better, a specific date.
These are just some of the signs of a strong independent woman that I see over and over again.
Everyone has a different idea of what strong and independent looks like to them, but the most important thing is that you feel strong, you feel confident, and you identify yourself as an independent woman.
Strong, independent, and confident women aren’t perfect, they just know they are amazing, despite their imperfections.
Why Being An Independent Woman Is Important
In today’s society, it is more important than ever to be a strong independent woman.
With so many women taking on leadership roles and becoming the breadwinners in their families, it is essential that we know how to take care of ourselves both emotionally and financially.
Before we address the importance of being an independent woman, you need to know what is an independent woman, and what it means to be one.
This is because everyone has a different interpretation of the meaning of being an independent woman.
For some, being an independent woman simply means being self-sufficient and not needing anyone else to take care of them.
Others might interpret it as being emotionally strong and not relying on anyone else for their happiness.
And still, others might see it as being financially stable and not having to depend on anyone else for their income.
No matter how you interpreted the meaning of being an independent woman, there is one thing that is for sure, and that is that being an independent woman is very important.
Here are five reasons why being an independent woman is important:
1 – You Are In Control Of Your Own Life
When you are an independent woman, you are in control of your own life. You don’t have to rely on anyone else to make decisions for you or take care of yourself.
2 – You Can Take Care Of Yourself
One of the most important things about being an independent woman is that you can take care of yourself. You don’t need anyone else to do things for you or to help you.
3 – You Are Strong And Confident
When you are an independent woman, you are automatically stronger and more confident. You know that you can handle anything that comes your way and that you don’t need anyone else to help you.
4 – You Can Do Anything You Put Your Mind To
As an independent woman, you can do anything you put your mind to. You are not limited by what anyone else thinks or says. You can accomplish anything you set your sights on.
5 – You Are Happy And Fulfilled
When you are an independent woman, you are usually happier and more fulfilled than someone who is not. This is because you are in control of your own life and you are doing things that make you happy.
How To Be An Independent Woman
You might already show a lot of the signs of a strong independent woman, or maybe just a few, or perhaps you’re looking for ways to become more independent and confident in yourself.
While learning how to be independent could be a whole article of it’s own, these are a few things you can do to start working towards independence today.
1 – Determine What Being An Independent Woman Means For You
The first thing you need to do is sit down and really think about what being an independent woman means to you.
What are the things that are most important to you? What do you want to be able to do that you can’t do now?
Some people might want to be able to travel alone, others might want to start their own businesses, and others might simply want to be more confident in themselves.
Whatever it is that you want, make sure that you have a clear idea of what it is before moving on to the next step.
2 – Set Boundaries With Others
One of the most important things you can do to become a strong independent woman is to set boundaries with others.
You need to learn how to say no and how to put yourself first.
Remember, you cannot please everyone all the time and that is okay.
It is more important to focus on what makes you happy and fulfilled than it is to try and make everyone else happy.
3 – Be Assertive
Another important thing you need to do to become an independent woman is to be assertive.
This means that you need to speak up for yourself and stand up for what you believe in.
Do not be afraid to voice your opinion and to stand up for yourself.
4 – Take Care Of Yourself Physically, Mentally, And Emotionally
If you want to be a strong independent woman, you need to take care of yourself both physically, mentally, and emotionally.
This means eating healthy, exercising, getting enough sleep, and taking care of your mental and emotional health.
Remember, you cannot be strong and independent if you are not taking care of yourself first.
5 – Believe In Yourself
The last and most important thing you need to do to become an independent woman is to believe in yourself.
You need to know that you can do anything you set your mind to and that you are worthy of happiness and success.
Stop doubting yourself and start believing in your own strength and abilities.
Becoming a strong independent woman is not an overnight process, but it is something that you can start working on today.
Remember, you are in control of your own life and you can do anything you set your mind to. Just believe in yourself and always keep moving forward.
Affirmations For Strong Independent Women
One of our favorite tools to help you believe in yourself and build yourself up when it comes to being an independent woman is positive affirmations.
If you are looking for some affirmations to help you become a strong independent woman, here are a few that might help you:
– I am in control of my own life.
– I can take care of myself.
– I am strong and confident.
– I can do anything I put my mind to.
– I am happy and fulfilled.
– I am a strong independent woman.
– I love and respect myself.
– I am worthy of happiness and success.
– I am brave and unshakable.
Use these affirmations daily, either in the morning when you wake up or at night before you go to bed. Repeat them to yourself out loud and really believe them.
Before you know it, they will become a part of who you are and you will start to see yourself as a strong independent woman.
While you may already show signs you’re a strong independent woman, there’s always room for growth.
Remember to focus on what being an independent woman means to you and set your own boundaries. Be assertive, take care of yourself, and most importantly, believe in yourself.
Use positive affirmations to help you along the way and always keep moving forward. You can do this!