Confidence is something many women long for, but in a lot of ways can be somewhat elusive as well. We see women exuding what we think is confidence, especially on the surface, but true self confidence isn’t just about what you show outwardly to others.
A truly and genuinely confident woman has far more going on in her mind than how she appears to others.
In fact, her confidence can often come from the fact that she really doesn’t give two hoots what others think of her and would rather be dancing to the beat of her own drums (and slaying her goals in the meantime).
So what does it mean to be truly confident? How can you recognize a confident woman? And how can you be more confident on the inside rather than illusively confident?
What Does It Mean To Be Confident?
Confidence is a state of being that involves feeling secure, self-assured, and empowered. It’s having faith in yourself to be able to handle whatever life throws your way.
Confidence allows you to take risks and make bold choices with courage and grace without fear or insecurity getting in the way.
When it comes to women, being confident often means believing in yourself and your abilities without the need for approval or validation from others.
Why Is Confidence Important?
Confidence is important because it drives us to take action toward our goals and helps us become bigger, better versions of ourselves.
It allows us to trust ourselves and make decisions that are good for us, instead of waiting around for someone else to do it.
Having confidence also helps you create healthy and meaningful relationships with others and exude an air of self-assurance that will help you in your career and other areas of life.
15 Signs Of Confident Women You Can Spot From A Mile Away (And Can Steal For Yourself)
These are some of the signs of a confident woman that you can adopt yourself, work on, and add to your own life.
These traits can help increase your confidence, make you feel more confident in yourself, and help you to give fewer hoots about what others think of you.
1 – She Knows What She Wants
You would be amazed at how many women don’t actually know what they want out of life. Or perhaps you wouldn’t be amazed because you too fall into this category.
I’m not just talking about what she wants for dinner, or where she wants to go on her next holiday… I’m talking about her dreams, her goals, and her aspirations in life.
What does she want her life to look like? And most importantly, what steps is she going to take to get there?
You’re not going to find confident women waiting around to marry a millionaire or win the lotto in order to live the life she wants.
She knows what she wants in life and she makes it happen for herself.
A lot of this comes from a well-established sense of self, as well as confidence in her place in the world, and having the power to go after what she wants without the fear of what others think holding her back.
2 – She Has A Plan To Achieve Her Goals
When it comes to goals, we all have them – albeit some people have a more vague version of a ‘wish’ rather than goals.
However, for the majority of people, we have some idea of the goals we want to achieve.
But a confident woman?
She doesn’t just have goals that she hopes to achieve someday – she has a dedicated action plan with small steps that lead her to achieve her goals.
A confident woman also lets go of any fear she has around achieving her goals, plays to her strengths and weaknesses (we all have them), and she includes working towards her goals in her everyday tasks.
She doesn’t live her life in a reactive way, and doesn’t just talk about the success she wants to achieve.
Instead, she takes action, moves forward toward her goals, and does so by taking positive steps every day.
3 – She Works Hard
We all have our own definitions of hard, and this isn’t about someone working ‘harder’ than others. But a confident woman is, by her own measure, someone who works hard.
She knows that getting what she wants in life means she has to sacrifice some things along the way, and that she has to work hard to make the things she wants happen, but she is all too willing to do it if it means she gets to live the life she loves.
This doesn’t mean she works herself into the ground though.
Yes, she is hard-working, but she also understands the value of rest and the need to include that in her time too.
She knows that without rest, hard work is just work and doesn’t actually move her closer to her goals.
Working hard allows her confidence to shine because she learns new things, achieves smaller goals along the way, and is even more confident in her abilities, which shine through into various aspects of her life.
4 – She Doesn’t Rely On Anyone Else To Make Her Happy
A confident woman knows that there is only one person responsible for her happiness, and that is herself.
While other people can make her happy, it’s not their responsibility to do so (nor is it her responsibility to make anyone else happy).
She learns to focus on herself first, in all things, which allows her to be the best version of herself.
Even as a parent, a woman who feels confident in herself (who, let’s face it, at times feels less confident with motherhood), knows that in order to be a good mother she needs to make sure she is happy and that her needs are being met.
She knows that the idea of a self-sacrificing woman, someone who gives herself up in order to meet someone else’s expectations, doesn’t fit her narrative and instead breaks free of social constraints to put her own happiness first.
5 – She Knows What Makes Her Happy
In addition to knowing that her happiness is her own responsibility, a confident woman knows what it is that makes her happy.
She knows what truly sets her heart on fire and lights up her life and she makes sure she includes it in her day.
She also is aware of the little sparks of joy, the little things that tug at her curiosity and allow her creativity to expand.
In addition to knowing what makes her happy, she also knows what does not serve her, and what does not make her happy, and is sure to exclude that from her life when possible, and protect herself when needed.
This is because she has a good level of self-esteem and self confidence, she knows what she deserves, and doesn’t have time for negative people taking up space and energy in her world.
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6 – She Isn’t Afraid To Speak Her Mind
Be sure you don’t get this confused with someone who is loud for the sake of being loud, or loud to simply gain attention.
A confident woman speaks her mind but she does so on topics she is educated on and is passionate about and she does so in a respectful and considerate manner.
She knows that people have different opinions, and that’s totally okay.
She understands that by sharing what she knows and what she is educated on, she can help others to learn and be aware of new topics too.
Keep in mind she does this in a respectful way, she doesn’t push her opinions onto others, but offers an educated and informed differing point of view.
A confident woman won’t let fear hold her back from speaking up on an important matter or taking a stand against issues she feels need to be addressed.
7 – She Listens More Than She Speaks
A confident woman understands that she is forever learning, that everyone she meets knows something she doesn’t know, and that she may be educated but she will always have more to learn.
She shows this by always listening more than she speaks – not because what she has to say doesn’t offer value, but because she is always in pursuit to learn more.
A confident woman genuinely finds people fascinating and loves hearing people’s stories, their backgrounds, their experiences, their challenges, and their triumphs.
She is not threatened by others but celebrates with them and for them.
8 – She Can Admit When She Is Wrong
A confident woman admits her shortcomings with ease, she has no hang-ups about admitting when she is wrong, and see’s situations like this as an opportunity to learn and to better herself.
And she invites constructive criticism too.
A confident woman knows that she isn’t always right, and she is okay with this.
She doesn’t have to be right all the time, and it is in the mistakes she makes that she learns and grows.
In fact, she welcomes mistakes with open arms, tries new things, and pushes herself, understanding that mistakes are a critical part of growth and she never lets this stop her from doing what she wants to do in life.
She even welcomes mistakes, knowing that each mistake is a form of practice, and an opportunity to learn and hone her skills.
Each of her mistakes teaches her something and is a step forward.
9 – She Steps Outside Of Her Comfort Zone
A confident woman knows that comfort zones are the home of mediocrity and knows that nothing great ever came from staying within them.
She pushes boundaries, challenges herself, and learns how to be comfortable with being uncomfortable.
Often this is where we ‘see’ the other confident women, out of their comfort zone, but it is just one of the small pieces of a confidence puzzle.
It’s the polished part we see, but we don’t see the discomfort she feels but pushes through anyway.
Even if this doesn’t make her feel confident, she knows that stepping outside of her comfort zone is vital for her growth, and will reap the benefits to her confidence later.
10 – She Pays Attention To Her Body Language
A confident woman pays attention to her body language and the way she holds herself.
She stands tall, makes eye contact, smiles, and exudes warmth.
She knows that how she carries herself speaks volumes about who she is and what she thinks about herself.
Her posture lets people know that she respects them, and she respects herself.
She is secure in her own skin and does not look for external validation or approval from anyone else.
A confident woman knows that who she is and what she has to offer the world is enough, and because of this attitude, her body language naturally reflects her feelings of worthiness and inner confidence.
11 – She Chooses Positive Self Talk
A confident woman makes the conscious choice to speak kindly and positively about herself.
She knows that her thoughts become her words, and her words impact her actions and how she carries herself in life.
Even when facing moments of self-doubt or failure, she will choose to stay positive by speaking kind words to herself and reframing the situation in a more positive light.
She sees her mistakes as learning experiences and focuses on how she can use them to grow and better herself.
A confident woman is aware of her thoughts, takes responsibility for them, and makes sure that they are beneficial to her mental health.
12 – She Creates Positive Habits
A confident woman knows that to become the best version of herself, she needs habits that support her growth help her to be the person she wants to be.
If she wants to be a healthy person, she creates healthy habits.
If she wants to be an organized person, she creates habits that allow her to be more organized.
This helps her confidence because she reinforces to herself that she is in control of her life, she is capable, and she can achieve whatever she sets her mind to.
A confident woman believes in herself enough to create habits that will lead her towards a better version of herself and ultimately result in her feeling more confident.
13 – She Knows That It’s OK To Feel Unconfident At Times
A confident woman knows that feeling unconfident at times is normal, and she doesn’t beat herself up for it.
Instead, she accepts these feelings and works on improving her confidence in the long run by focusing on activities that help her build self-esteem and strengthen her sense of self-worth.
She knows that there will be days when she feels unconfident but acknowledges it and then works on boosting her confidence in more positive ways.
14 – She Takes Time For (Real) Self Care
A confident woman understands that real self-care is more than just a bubble bath or a massage.
It’s taking care of her mental and physical health, setting healthy boundaries for herself, devoting time to activities she enjoys, and allowing herself the space to explore her own emotions without judgment.
She knows that taking care of her own needs is essential for her well-being, and she takes the time to do it even when it’s hard.
Confident women also know that self-care looks different for everyone, so they take time to discover what works best for them and make sure they are taking care of themselves in ways that lead to real change.
By taking the time to prioritize self-care, a confident woman is better equipped to take on life with a sense of worthiness and inner confidence.
15 – She Surrounds Herself With Confident People
A confident woman surrounds herself with people who make her feel good about herself and lift her up.
She understands that the people around her have a huge impact on how she feels, and she makes sure to surround herself with those who are living confidently and pushing themselves to reach their goals.
She also avoids toxic people who are negative, judgmental, and bring her down.
A confident woman knows that the people she chooses to spend time with can make or break her self confidence, so she carefully selects only those who will help bring out her best self.
You won’t see a confident women surrounded by people who are negative, who speak poorly to others, or who are judgemental.
Remember, confidence isn’t just something we ‘have’ – it’s something that we work on every day, like a muscle we need to exercise.
There are certain things here that will speak to you more than others, and some that won’t resonate at all, and that’s okay.
There’s no one ‘right’ way to be confident, only you will know if you truly feel confident and are happy in all that you do and all that you are.
Confidence is something that takes practice and patience, but with the right strategies and a positive mindset, you can become the confident woman you want to be.