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What is love? How do you find true love? How do you know you have found it? People have been wondering for that centuries now and we will continue wondering about it. There’s no universal answer to love.
Millennials are no exception to this. But their quest for love seems slightly different from those of the previous generations as they have more freedom to choose their partners. Naturally, they don’t want to give up, or limit their freedom. But the question is – why we think that relationship has to be limiting or giving up the freedom? Is that a heritage of previous generations? Or is it the effect of social media and constant request to be representable?
On the other hand, their behavior is not strange considering the age we live in – we are so addicted to virtual likes that we have started obsessing about it in real life. There’s no shame in admitting that we want to be liked by other people, it is natural, but for millennials, it has become imperative to be liked.
“If I know what love is, it is because of you.”
— Herman Hesse
Love does not just appear out of thin air – it’s awakened by the person you are with. Them being with you makes you discover love. It’s not something you can force, it often takes time and patience, but real love is worth it.
You know the saying – ‘There are plenty more fish in the sea’?
Do not look for a fish. Find someone who will be your sea, who will expand your horizons and turn your life into an amazing adventure. Find someone to whom you will also be the sea – full of opportunities to experience new and wonderful things.
Respect your partner. Love is a feeling that cannot survive without mutual respect. If they do something you do not like, tell them that and expect the same in return. Learn how to be a good girlfriend, and teach him how to be the best boyfriend one girl can ever wish for. Because true love will teach you both how to be better people.
Be The Best Of Friends
“It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.”
― Friedrich Nietzsche
There is a difference between being in love with someone and loving someone. You can fall in love at first sight but you cannot love someone at first sight, right? Why? Because love is a process and not a chemical reaction or instant attraction.
Lack of real friendship will end up destroying any romantic relationship you have, short- or long-term. You do not have to be friends at the start of your relationship for it to work, but you will have to develop it as time goes by.
So, give yourself an opportunity to get to know your partner, to understand him, for him to know and understand you. Do not just quit if some things are hard right away.
Communication is the basis of any long-lasting relationship. Talk to him about things you like and don’t like. Ask him about what is important to him and listen to what he has to say. If you don’t communicate, how will you know and understand each other?
Share your interests with him and trying including him in some of your favorite activities. But also, be willing to participate in something he likes doing (even if it means going to a football game or watching one).
And, as you would for any of your friends, know how to balance your own time and the time you spend together. You do not need to smother him and monopolize his time. On the other hand, you cannot ignore him for days.
Enjoy The Goals
“I would rather spend one lifetime with you, than face all the ages of this world alone.”
— J. R. R. Tolkien.
None of us want to be alone no matter our age or where we are from. We all need someone in our lives to share the good times and the bad. Someone who will laugh with us or hold our hand and tell us all will be alright. Being together with the person whom you love, will make all the hardships in life easier to bear and every single happy moment more precious and more enjoyable.
If you, after a fight, feel like you would be better off alone and want to end your relationship, think carefully. The easiest solution in life is quitting when you encounter an obstacle but don’t take the easy way out! You will need to overcome the fights and find a solution for your problems. Don’t just give up, as you might end up regretting it for the rest of your life.
Also, do not be with someone just because you are scared of being alone. Be with him because you cannot imagine your life without him.
We know how difficult it is to find true love. So, if you find someone who makes you want to spend the rest of your life with him, fight for it with all your might. We know this advice is a bit old-fashioned but real love is never out of fashion.
I honestly believe that having fun in your relationship is one of the key factors in having a successful relationship that makes you excited, makes you happy and makes you confident. Which is why I created a planner just for relationships called ‘Our Relationship Planner’.
It has so many pages in it to help promote communication and most importantly, to have fun. Check it out below or find more of my relationship planners here – Relationship Planners.